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 1.)Wrong or too less communication about what you want, how you feel leads to divorce.  Communicate what you want and accept what your spouse expect from you! When both are hurting each other continuously, the love will end soon. Communicate what hurts you, without blemishing the other person!!! Because everybody is responsible for his/her life!  2.)Sex is not working out. I don’t care if you agree or not…  Males and females have a sexual drive and if the sex is not working out then the cheating will happen. The sexual drive is the second strongest drive of the human species. In the older age, the sex drive diminishes. Talk about openly what you want, without hurting each other. It might be scaring! 3.)Money problem… There exist only 10% of the people who love to save money and 90% are overspender. What happens if a saver is together with an overspender? Clashes….  Money problems lead to 50% to divorces. Talk openly about your debts, income and how much you sav...

 Somehow we all feel that there is something missing when we are not occupied. Be it to work, to do Facebook, see videos on YouTube… If we finish something then we are in a void,- like when we switch a gear in a car we have to pass neutral. And with this neutral we are unsatisfied. Even we pass the neutral when we switch gears, our car is still moving… and so our thoughts.  In the situation of emptiness, we can face:  Fear of a void or emptiness. Fear to be alone. Fear of purpose, mission. Fear to be unimportant  Fear to miss-out.  Fear to be meaningless. Fear not to have the right drive. Fear to wast our time for meaningless things. Fear of death. All kind of these fears indicates that we don’t feel whole. If we want to avoid that void should we be always in the Hamster Treadmill?  Imagine you are in a talk with your new boy- or girlfriend and then it happens that nobody is speaking. We feel directly uncomfortable.- Because we want to keep talking, instead...

  It is not about how much you can get done each day, it is about how much you can get done over the course of a career or throughout a lifetime. We were canoeing down the Weser River. And another 8-person rowing boat, much faster than our boat was over the course of one day always slower than our canoe… Because they had to rest after one kilometer again and again… if you keep doing every day a task, even at a slow pace you can get much more done than a person that is chasing his goal…  And the good thing is you are relaxed and enjoy doing your task… If you go on vacation and you should do so every year, switch off your internet connection…. I do so, my friends are complaining and I say always there was no internet connection, actually, there was one, but too slow and too expensive…  And then you can relax. Afterward, you are much more productive.  I recommend going to China, your social media will not work, or most internet services that you use… Nobody can reach yo...

 I was amused, when Gerry Roberts, one of the most successful speakers on the stage told that he is sleeping naked. There is a very funny story about him and Bob Proctor cached naked in Singapore. Never the less, Gerry mad a joke out of that painful incident without any shame  …  Why is it shameful to be naked?  My father, Prof. Dr. Carl Zimmerer was very conservative, and he wore always a suit. Quite often, in our home, he was naked even when guests were coming. And he was chosen as one of the most successful entrepreneurs of Germany, one of the greatest economy specialist and speaker in Europe… Why had my father no shame to present himself naked, even it was for our family shameful…?!  Shame is: 1.) Fear,  2.) fear what other people think about you,  3.) fear of exposure, 4.) fear of sexuality. Can you present yourself naked?  Can you speak in front of 1000 people and expose yourself like Gerry with his most embarrassing moments?  Get rid o...

 We all know “ the never give up”  should be the right…. And sometimes “giving up” is the best thing….   For instance to quit smoking. If we want a new relationship we have to quit the old relationship…. Even we give up our smoking still we feel and think that we have lost something.  And that hinder us to change ourselves or to gain a new habit. Because we are a slave to our habits!!!! If we want to gain something we have to let go or to give up something. Mark Zuckerberg left his studies at Harvard to focus on a stupid website,… called today Facebook. Was his decision right? Is he today happier or “only” a Billionaire?  I have spoken with people who have given up their job to become independent and then got bankrupt…. Still, they would do it again. Because through every change that we make we gain something. And to work always in the same firm or to be together with always the same people, spouse will not be the best solution for everybody.  I never will ...

 When I was growing up in our spirituality group,… pride or to be proud was the worst…. Because pride is ego! And minority feelings is ego too. Pride hinders us to enjoy our life. Because everybody can hurt us easily when he is crashing our pride. We live in an illusion, that we are superior and that will hinder us to become better. We need humbleness to learn new stuff and too much pride will obstruct us to learn!  When even somebody is saying our Guru is bad, - disciple ego, we will be upset. The Guru should take our ego and now another guy can hurt us with our relationship to that Guru! Understand your ego! Everything that we make will build up our ego or pride!  When I went to the best Therapists in the world, much better than A. Roberts … I was astounded that these Therapists were building up our ego instead to destroy it.  Not every ego is bad! The great Bhakti Yogi Ramakrishna said we can’t destroy our ego. So let your ego become a servant of God then everythi...