How to Save a Marriage in Romania?
In the Transylvanian village of Biertan, Romania, there is a tiny room that may have saved more marriages than any modern therapist. For nearly 300 years, the village recorded only one divorce—thanks to a very unusual tradition. When couples wanted to separate, they weren’t allowed to do so immediately. Instead, under the guidance of the local bishop, they were locked together in a small room for up to six weeks (usually about two). Inside this room there was only: one bed, one set of utensils, one plate, one chair, and one table. The couple had to cook, eat, sleep, and talk together in this confined space. The idea wasn’t to punish them, but to slow things down and force communication. With no distractions, no escape, and no one else to turn to, they were left with only each other. The results were remarkable. Whether it was the enforced closeness, the shared discomfort, or the power of silence, nearly all couples reconciled. What This Tradition Teaches Us Today, divorce has bec...
