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The best relationships stay connected regardless of what.

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  What sets emotionally intelligent couples apart is their ability to stay connected, even when disagreements arise. I’m often more concerned about couples who never fight, because avoiding conflict entirely can hide unresolved hurts. After all, the closer you are, the more likely ruptures are to happen, and how you handle them matters. Here are three things emotionally intelligent couples do differently when they are in conflict. 1. They don’t assume the worst about their partner’s intent We’ve all been there. One sharp comment can seem like an attack on your character. For example, you forget to text back and it is interpreted as not caring. A request for space could be misconstrued as abandonment. Instead of assuming the worst, the most emotionally intelligent couples will ask questions like: “Can you help me understand what was happening for you?” “What did you hear me say?” “What part of this feels hardest?” “What’s been on your mind lately that I haven’t asked about?” “What’s...
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Robert M. Pirsig Quotes

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  Book: The study of the art of motorcycle maintenance  The only Zen you can find on the tops of mountains is the Zen you bring up there. Quality is a direct experience independent of and prior to intellectual abstractions.  To live only for some future goal is shallow. It's the sides of the mountain that sustain life, not the top. If you run from technology, it will chase you. The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands. Boredom always precedes a period of great creativity. We do need a return to individual integrity, self-reliance, and old-fashioned gumption. We really do. The truth knocks on the door and you say, go away, I'm looking for the truth, and it goes away. Puzzling. Metaphysics is a restaurant where they give you a thirty thousand page menu, and no food. The Buddha resides as comfortably in the circuits of a digital computer or the gears of a cycle transmission as he does at the top of a mountain. If you stare at a wall from ...
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Drukpa Kunley: The Mad Saint

  In Bhutan, you see many houses and temples decorated with phallus symbols. Naturally, you ask: Why? This question leads to profound insights—and just might change your life. Who Was Drukpa Kunley? Drukpa Kunley was born in 1455 in Lhasa, Tibet. He became a monk and later a Lama, following the Tantric teachings. He was a deeply sincere seeker with great insights, and during his time in monasteries, he was admired for his wisdom. But he often asked uncomfortable questions—questions that mostly went unanswered. What if our discipline is driven by fear of punishment or a need for validation? What if we achieve a higher rank and feel proud of it? Isn't that motivation rooted in ego? Why do we need validation that we are "good"? Isn't our very search for enlightenment an ego trip? Why do we aspire to become a Lama or a Rinpoche? Might it not be better to just be an ordinary person? The Monk Who Left the Monastery One day, he left the monastery for good. He traveled throug...
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How to Increase Your Potency?

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  Two simple practices can make a profound difference: Massage THIS spot for 1 minute daily to restore potency. Add raw, unprocessed cacao mass to your morning drink—it will improve your performance in every area of your life. The 60-Second Massage That Changes Everything When you gently massage this point for 60 seconds each day, you: Detox the blood vessels in the pelvic area Release chronic tension in the pelvic muscles Decompress the nerves responsible for erection, restoring sensitivity Massage the prostate gland What Is This Point? This is one of the most important points in Yoga and Traditional Chinese Medicine. It is called: The Perineum Hui Yin (in Chinese medicine) The "One Million Dollar Point" The "Gate of Death" This point is located in the area of the root chakra, and it connects the root chakra directly to the crown chakra. Where to find it: It lies between your legs, between the scrotum and the tip of your tailbone (coccyx). There is a small "ca...
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Carl Jung's Final Message Before He Died | What He Discovered:

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  For many years, Carl Jung studied dying people and published his observations shortly before his own death. Here is what he discovered. 1. You do not have a soul. You are the soul. 2. As people drew closer to death, their dreams changed completely. 3. In their dreams, the ego began to fade—along with concerns about reputation, wealth, success, and identity. 4. Symbols of homelessness, mandalas, circles, and images of completion began to appear. 5. These symbols appeared in a specific sequence, as if the psyche knew that death was near. 6. The psyche was preparing for a transformation—or a return. (Jung explored this deeply in his book Memories, Dreams, Reflections.) 7. In their final week, patients stopped fearing death. It wasn't because they had found religion. It was because their unconscious had shown them something—a vision, a knowing—that their "small self" was only a temporary construction. Beneath it, something was waiting. Something that had already been there....
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Real Relationships have real problems

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  Many people assume emotional security means never feeling jealous, arguing or questioning where they stand. But couples in emotionally secure relationships can navigate discomfort without losing trust in each other. 1. In relationships, small problems are blown up to immense problems…  For what is that good? We want to solve our problems and don’t want to enlarge them in the future…  Just solve them in the here and now.  Strategy go in baby steps…  If you want to go from A to B in the night you can see only 50m, and you have to go 400km… Should you panic, or you ask what is  If I am going wrong Or I have an accident If I am not on time If I have not enough petrol, even you have…  This leads to nothing. It is always enough to solve the problems that you have right now.  We go forward, stubbornly forward regardless how the situation looks projected in the future. We don’t know the future and to assume the worst case scenery makes life awful. ...
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Richard Bach Quotes

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  If you want to meet someone who can fix any situation you don't like, who can bring you happiness in spite of what other people say or believe, look in a mirror, then say this magic word: 'Hello.' What the caterpillar calls the end of the world the master calls a butterfly. Every problem in your life carries a gift inside it. You wait a lifetime to meet someone who understands you, accepts you as you are. At the end, you find that someone, all along, has been you. Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you. Mistakes - call them unexpected learning experiences. To bring anything into your life, imagine that it's already there. Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they're yours. The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. You're never given a dream without the power to make it true. Life does not listen to...
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My Book: Enjoy your life now!

My Book: Enjoy your life now!
Enjoy your life now!

My Book: Learn to Relax with Meditation

My Book: Learn to Relax with Meditation
Learn to Relax with Meditation

My Book: Heal Yourself and Stay Healthy

My Book: Heal Yourself and Stay Healthy
Heal Yourself and Stay Healthy

My Book: The Magic of Qigong!

My Book: The Magic of Qigong!
The Essence to become Happy. Healthy and Successful!